OVERVIEW
Do you feel that you have not flourished as much as you are capable of? Are you ashamed of going to parties and gatherings? Is it difficult for you to start a conversation? Do you avoid expressing your needs? Do you mostly give up on your rights so that you can provide others with convenience and satisfaction? Is it hard for you to hear criticism? Do you not use the sentence “I made a mistake”? Do you make excuses for your mistakes? Have you missed chances to progress in the past? Have you put yourself in situations where you were humiliated or insulted or even worse were ingratitude in spite of all your efforts, and you still do not save yourself?
If you are experiencing these feelings and situations, your self-esteem is the problem. Be sure to read the rest of this content carefully.
Self-esteem is crucial for mental survival and is a fundamental emotion. Not enjoying a certain amount of self-worth, life can be very difficult and painful and most of the needs can be left unmet.
One of the fundamental differences between humans and animals is self-awareness. The ability to shape identity and valuing it afterwards. In other words, it is you who can decide who you are and then decide whether you like it or not.
The problem with self-esteem is man’s ability to judge. Judging leads to lack of interest in colors, sounds, shapes or even feelings and not liking them. However, when you discard a part of yourself and stop loving it, you damage the psychological structures that keep you alive.
Self-rejection and judging yourself bring about a lot of pain. Consider suffering from a physical wound, if you take care of your wound it will be prevented from getting worse, the same applies to self-esteem, avoid anything that might in some way exacerbate your self-rejection and dislike issues. This way you are going to experience less social, scientific and occupational risks. Meeting other people and job interviews become so difficult or you will not be willing to make efforts where there is a possibility of failure.
You will consider limitations on self-expression, sexual desires, being noticed, hearing criticism, asking for help and solving problems. You are going to build a defensive wall around you in order to avoid judgements and rejections. You become a critic and angry person or you immerse yourself in work perfectionism. You also become arrogant and braggart and make excuses for everything you did not do in the right way or you may also turn to alcohol and drugs.
Now is the time to stop judging. It is that exact time to heal past wounds and accept your true selves. Dr. Afshari is capable of guiding and helping you in this path. In this way you manage to accept yourself more and better as well as changing your feelings and perceptions according to the existing realities, then you will observe that every part of your life will improve and you will gradually experience the pleasant and graceful feeling of freedom and satisfaction.
